Ever find yourself taking a step back from your own life? Almost looking at things from an outside perspective. Analyzing the people in your life and how they influence you, inspire you, and support you. Also analyzing those people who may need that additional analysis. The one's who say they support you but don't. Or those who never have anything positive to speak of, constantly complaining. Or maybe they're draining your energy and light without you even realizing or noticing. Until you fully imply a microscopic look as to the purpose they fulfill in your life. I believe that it is important to ask ourselves those very critical questions. Taking the initiative and responsibility to no longer fuel or engage in behavior that is not beneficial for us as we grow. I usually unintentionally and naturally find myself analyzing the people in my life often. Literally on a weekly and monthly basis. It's like a detox or a cleanse, spring cleaning if you will. I feel as though I've devoted and put a lot of time, energy, and sacrifice into myself, accepting that i am constantly growing. What I've realized and have had to accept is that people are very similar to seasons. We meet people and experience them to: to learn a lesson, endure and experience an emotion, or even to learn things about ourselves. Unfortunately, the harsh truth is that not everyone in your life is going to be apart of your life forever. With some people we have to take what we can from their purpose in our lives and we may never speak to or see them again. They were in our lives for a specific duration, delivered a purpose and no longer can be apart of our next chapter. There are also people that we may experience and then we eventually outgrow them. This may happen with long term friends, family or people that we care for deeply. They may no longer serve a positive or fulfilling purpose in our lives as we elevate, and we may be forced to love them from a distance. The important factor in making these executive decisions when evaluating the people in our lives is keeping ourselves first. You may have been friends with someone for 8 years. When you first met you were relieved to have met someone so similar to you. The fact that you both share similar likes, interests, styles, dreams, ambitions and so on. The type of energy that you reciprocate to one another is positive. They are able to ignite you and influence you to be better, they inspire you, they uplift you and you find the desire to always want to be around them. Years go by and you get older, always remaining in contact but you may not see each other as often. Your interest may begin to shift into different directions, career changes, kids, etc. And then one day you realize your once common interests are no longer the same, your conversations are less stimulating, even your mentality, maturity and perspective on life are now much different. Perhaps you've both grown...individually. You have years of memories good vibes and happiness however, you no longer have anything in common. It's safe to say that person is always someone who you will always have love for and that you will cherish the purpose that they provided for your life. You have to be honest and transparent enough with yourself to accept that this is someone you will have to love from a distance. When I say to love from a distance this does not necessarily mean to "cut them off completely." It simply means to give them as much of you that you can give without it dimming your light or without it taking away from your glowing aura. Call and check on them of course, but those non-stimulating conversations are not enhancing your mind. The season that you are entering or that you have entered requires people who resonate with the same vibrations as you.I believe that growth requires being selfish with yourself to an extent. Knowing what you want, in addition to the people you want to share your energy with. Your energy is precious! Imagine your energy becoming a rare yet tangible heirloom. Protect your energy and become honest and real enough with yourself to let go of who and what does not align. On the other hand you may have lingerers.People who want a placement in your life just to be there. Their demeanor is dubious at times, and their intentions and purpose in your life is unclear/uncertain. They are around to be relevant but have no distinctive relevance to your life. Just there..They don't inspire you, they may use you, they may also have a lot of personal inner healing to do The Importance of Inner Healing. This could be someone you occasionally sleep with. That friend that is more like an associate. My point is that when you make the conscious decision to elevate as a person, that is is essential to cut off loose ends. Ask yourself these questions the next time that you analyze your "circle." Do they inspire, support or encourage me? Are they positive? Do their goals, drive, and ambition match my frequency? Can I learn anything from them? Are they here in my life just to be here or do they genuinely want the best for me and support?
"If people do not add value to your life, then they are simply taking away from you!
" Do not dim your light or lower your vibrations for emotional attachments to people. Learn to put yourself first and to love people from a distance when necessary no matter how much time you've known them. Align yourself first with the energy you want so that " like energy" will align with you. If growing as a person makes those around you uncomfortable, then they do not deserve to be in your life. How can I grow as a person and you are not understanding or accepting to the fact that this will require change (lol people hate that word). My evolution will mold me and shed parts of myself that no longer fit the requirements of the "evolved version of me."