I find that the more that I grow in this life and go through life’s experiences whether good or bad that the significance of obtaining inner peace is essential for my well being. Once you’ve felt balance, real mental, spiritual and physical balance that it is almost as if you want to value and cherish that feeling ongoing. In that very moment of being uncomfortable when the universe is challenging you to put your growth to the test. When you may have reacted to a situation out of emotion in the past. You are now able to 1) process the situation at hand with a different mentality and 2) decide how you want to react without actually reacting first. I remember when I was younger I would get so angry over things. My energy shift was extremely dangerous and would go from zero to one hundred in a matter of seconds. Sometimes it would be over the smallest things, other times I would react unreasonably over a situation which may have had a larger impact on me. However, growth over time has allowed me to be able to realize that everything does not deserve an immediate and negative reaction. Instead, the real resolution I found as I matured is to be so in tuned with my higher self that I would begin to understand my emotions and create the ability to have control over them and when the appropriate time would be to release them. If the feelings were negative and conflicted a undesirable connotation that I would channel those emotions when I was alone. To find peace enough at that moment to not allow it to prohibit me from moving forward with my day but also realizing that I would have to address these emotions at another time so that I could thoroughly deal with them and let go.
People frequently will ask what did it take for me to achieve this point of inner peace and inner balance in my life. To no longer allow my emotions to control me or the situations I was going through but to in fact find solutions by converting my energy more positively. To reach such a height of balance that I could truly take a step back to thoroughly analyze my solutions more progressively. I believe for me that a key component in finding this feeling of inner peace and utilizing it in my everyday life is simply gratitude. The appreciation to know that every situation is not necessarily in my full control and that I do not have to react out of immediate emotion. Also realizing that sometimes you need to go through these situations because they are serving a distinct purpose to you and your life. Whether in that moment that the purpose is understood or not but accepting that everything happens for a reason. Perhaps the universe needed you to experience this. Or maybe you needed to experience specific emotion to gain strength. Maybe you perspective needed be challenged or someone needed to deliver wisdom to you. We’ve got to start changing the way our minds to think. Instead of saying “why me?” and to be able to take whatever we can with a positive mindset. This by far sometimes can be one of the hardest things to digest, to accept the hardships that we experience all while finding the positive in it. When you’re dealing with something so traumatic, is when inner healing is essential. “I just didn’t quit, the the one distinguishing quality in me and whoever else probably going through this, or went through this, or is going to go through this”-Nipsey Hussle
I believe that on our journey to inner healing that we need to be open, honest, vulnerable and real with ourselves. Raw enough to be challenged by uncomfortability. Open to change and receptive to realizing that in order to heal we must let go of our prideful behaviors and ways of thinking.Completely open enough with ourselves to take responsibility and accountability for things but to accept our humanness. Raw enough to be able to allow those emotions to run their course and serve their purpose in that moment. Not pushing those emotions and feelings to the side or feeling as if we are not supposed to feel them. But to embrace them, understand the root of what you are feeling. So in that moment you can release and properly heal. We've been programmed to believe that showing emotion is a sign of weakness.Both women and men experience this in society. When in reality it's actually the opposite. The more that we hold onto, the more that we ignore the feelings that we encounter in that moment. Causing the wound to get deeper and unresolved. We have to be real with ourselves and check ourselves in that very moment. Being uncomfortable enables room for growth because you are doing things outside of your norm. This is all apart of learning yourself. Really digging deep to becoming exposed to characteristics of yourself that you may not have known to exist. That is also why it is important to spend time alone. Take your time to really get to know who you are as a person on a deeper more realistic level. The more in tuned that you are with yourself the more you tap into your higher self, leading to higher vibrations in the body. Have you ever moved away from home to a new city, state, or country by yourself? Not knowing anyone where you were moving and not knowing anything outside of the research you may have conducted. Being forced to adapt to new environments, new people, climate and way of life. Have you ever been downtown on a Saturday night by yourself? Most people would think that this is bizarre, but I would ask them what part of this frightens you? Being alone? Being uncomfortable? Societies perceptions?
I encourage you to be challenged, spend time alone, to separate yourself from the idea of reliance or needing a companion or company when doing internal healing. When you are going through situations, battling emotions from the past, or find unbalance in yourself it is imperative to heal alone. Becoming so in tuned with yourself that people's opinions have no significance to your life's decisions. Getting so familiar with yourself that when you are experiencing a certain emotion that you learn to embrace it instead of running from it. That is real growth and that is real inner healing. Vulnerability, gratitude, and growth...